Marry Well and Right: Biblical Keys to Lasting Love

 

MARRY WELL AND RIGHT

By Dr. Joel Dabbas 

Let me begin with a piece of advice: "Marry well!"
Marriage is not just about love and ceremonies; it is about destiny. The person you marry will either add to your life or subtract from it. That is why choosing the right person is one of the greatest decisions you will ever make.

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord." — Proverbs 18:22
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?" — 2 Corinthians 6:14

The Weight of Marriage

Many trivialize marriage, but marriage is a rounded relationship—and that is why the symbol used to seal it is a ring. A ring has no point; it is wholly together, continuous, and unbroken.

Marriage is a legal bond between two people. It binds you together spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, and physically.

"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." — Ephesians 5:31
"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." — Mark 10:9

There is also a transfer of ancestral authority in marriage. For example, when a prince marries a lady who is not a princess, as soon as they tie the knot, she becomes royalty. As simple as this may seem, there are many spiritual, mental, and physical exchanges and connections that occur in marriage. That is why you must never joke about who you marry.

Marriage is meant to last a lifetime; it is unlike any other relationship. You can break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend and move on, but not so in marriage. In marriage, it is not called a "breakup"—it is called a divorce. The root meaning of divorce implies that two entities were forcibly hewn apart. There is no such thing as a mild marital separation—it always comes with pain, regret, and heartbreak. Sometimes, it can even claim lives and shatter destinies.

Why You Must Marry Well and Right

I. Destiny is at Stake

If you have any destiny to fulfill at all, you must take the issue of marrying right very seriously.

"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" — Amos 3:3

II. Dreams are at Stake

There are spouses who are dream eaters and killers. They inhibit the manifestation of your dreams.
Many great people never emerged because they married the wrong person.

"Bad company corrupts good character." — 1 Corinthians 15:33
"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." — Proverbs 14:1

III. Who You Marry Determines a Lot of Outcomes in Your Life

Your choice of a life partner will influence almost every major aspect of your life—positively or negatively.

IV. Who You Marry Affects Your Growth in Life and Destiny

The right person pushes you forward. The wrong person holds you back.

How to Marry Well and Right

1. Let Both Your Physical and Spiritual Eyes Go to Work!
   Don’t be blinded by appearance alone. Look deeply and discern wisely.

   "Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." — 1 Samuel 16:7b

2. Watch and Pray!
   Be alert spiritually and sensitive in prayer as you seek direction.

   "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." — Matthew 26:41

3. Engage the Power of Wisdom
   Don’t rush. Get counsel. Be guided by wisdom.

   "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him." — James 1:5
   "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed." — Proverbs 15:22

4. Connect with the Holy Ghost
   The Holy Spirit knows the heart of everyone. His guidance is priceless.

   "But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth." — John 16:13

5. Ask for Favour
   Beauty will attract people to you, but favour will draw the right person to you.

   "For You, O Lord, will bless the righteous; with favor You will surround him as with a shield." — Psalm 5:12

Signposts That You Married Right

These signs apply both to the married and those dating or intending to marry:

1. A Right Partner Gives You Peace and Strength

The right partner brings peace, not chaos—strength, not stress.

"Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." — Proverbs 21:9
"The Lord gives strength to His people; the Lord blesses His people with peace." — Psalm 29:11

2. A Right Partner Helps You Grow

Some people are lost in the ocean of wrong relationships. They lose their identity, vision, dreams, and enthusiasm.
But the right person doesn’t kill your dreams—they nurture them.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." — Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
"Love is patient, love is kind... It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." — 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

3. A Right Partner Secures the Next Generation

Marriage is a bridge to the next generation, especially when children are involved. The kind of person you marry will directly affect who your children become.

Marriage is for those who are willing to cover and support each other. Children thrive under the covering of parents who, despite challenges, work hand in hand to keep the family bond intact.

"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." — Proverbs 22:6
"The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him." — Proverbs 20:7

Final Thoughts

Choose wisely. Marry well. Marry right. Your future depends on it.

"In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths." — Proverbs 3:6